Comments on: Five Ways to Make Others Feel Included http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/five-ways-to-make-others-feel-included/ Your one-stop e-source with information and techniques on interpersonal and social skills, public speaking, networking, negotiation and conflict resolution. Sat, 15 Jan 2011 21:50:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/five-ways-to-make-others-feel-included/comment-page-1/#comment-1266 Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord Fri, 12 Jun 2009 11:38:27 +0000 http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/?p=462#comment-1266 What a great post. I was just thinking along these lines yesterday as I passed by a "helping hand" in the grocery store and didn't look at him & smile, as I do with so many others. He said hi to me after I passed, which of course just amplified my feelings of, "What is wrong with me that I didn't give him the same courtesy I give other people?" I stopped, turned around and returned his kind gesture. But it got me thinking about my ego, its tendencies to want to include these people but not those, and the like. Your post reminded me of things I need to be more aware of moving forward. Thank you! <I><B>Laurie: </b>Interesting comment, Megan; thanks for sharing your experience. It's interesting how we have a kind of unconscious selection of who we include and who we don't. I've got to remind myself to be more aware too so I don't unintentionally offend someone (and then feel guilty and beat myself up over it!). Thanks for visiting, Megan.</i> What a great post. I was just thinking along these lines yesterday as I passed by a “helping hand” in the grocery store and didn’t look at him & smile, as I do with so many others. He said hi to me after I passed, which of course just amplified my feelings of, “What is wrong with me that I didn’t give him the same courtesy I give other people?” I stopped, turned around and returned his kind gesture. But it got me thinking about my ego, its tendencies to want to include these people but not those, and the like. Your post reminded me of things I need to be more aware of moving forward. Thank you!

Laurie: Interesting comment, Megan; thanks for sharing your experience. It’s interesting how we have a kind of unconscious selection of who we include and who we don’t. I’ve got to remind myself to be more aware too so I don’t unintentionally offend someone (and then feel guilty and beat myself up over it!). Thanks for visiting, Megan.

]]> By: Vi | Maximizing Utility http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/five-ways-to-make-others-feel-included/comment-page-1/#comment-1264 Vi | Maximizing Utility Thu, 11 Jun 2009 01:53:52 +0000 http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/?p=462#comment-1264 Hi Laurie -- Brilliant suggestions. I tend to be shy & hope for others to include me. But interestingly enough, I don't often make the effort to do that for others. Your suggestions are quite empowering. <I><B>Laurie: </b>Thanks for the kind words. And thanks too for stopping by; I appreciate it.</i> Hi Laurie –
Brilliant suggestions. I tend to be shy & hope for others to include me. But interestingly enough, I don’t often make the effort to do that for others. Your suggestions are quite empowering.

Laurie: Thanks for the kind words. And thanks too for stopping by; I appreciate it.

]]> By: Positively Present http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/five-ways-to-make-others-feel-included/comment-page-1/#comment-1263 Positively Present Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:14:47 +0000 http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/?p=462#comment-1263 Those are great suggestions! One of the things I hate the most is not feeling included so I really should make an effort to include others. I know how much it means to me when I'm feeling like not part of a group and someone reaches out to me. It's one of the nicest things a person can do! <I><B>Laurie:</i> I agree. It feels good to be invited and included. Being excluded, even if it's not intentional, is really uncomfortable and sometimes stressful (when you're trying to look like you belong but you feel like a complete outsider). </i> Those are great suggestions! One of the things I hate the most is not feeling included so I really should make an effort to include others. I know how much it means to me when I’m feeling like not part of a group and someone reaches out to me. It’s one of the nicest things a person can do!

Laurie: I agree. It feels good to be invited and included. Being excluded, even if it’s not intentional, is really uncomfortable and sometimes stressful (when you’re trying to look like you belong but you feel like a complete outsider).

]]> By: brandi http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/five-ways-to-make-others-feel-included/comment-page-1/#comment-1262 brandi Wed, 10 Jun 2009 16:25:42 +0000 http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com/?p=462#comment-1262 you know, I often have a need to be actively included...yet this gives me pause to see areas where I can actively include others as well. great, great post. very thoughtful. <I><B>Laurie:</b> Me too. I often need someone to ask me something directly or else I think I'm boring them. Thanks for stopping by, Brandi.</i> you know, I often have a need to be actively included…yet this gives me pause to see areas where I can actively include others as well. great, great post. very thoughtful.

Laurie: Me too. I often need someone to ask me something directly or else I think I’m boring them. Thanks for stopping by, Brandi.

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