Comments on: How Words Add Fuel to the Fire

By: Vi | Maximizing Utility

Vi | Maximizing Utility — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 14:56:59 +0000

Hi,
This is a fabulously interesting post. Interesting, because too much in my life is plagued by indecision. I find that in my life I have a need for more direction, not less. I end up in a Merry-Go-Round of “Where do you want to go eat?” “I don’t care, what do you want?” “It doesn’t matter to me, you pick.” “No, you pick.” ARGH! It’s so frustrating! I find that more assertiveness is a good thing.

This post also makes me think of Geert Hofstede’s Power Distance Index. Clearly, you are appealing to societies with low power distance, ie cultures in which power is distributed evenly.

Laurie: lol – I’ve done the back-and-forth indecision too many times too! I was just reading up on the Power Distance Index because of your comment. I wasn’t familiar with it so thanks for mentioning it – very interesting!

By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord

Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 10:51:11 +0000

This is great! I frequently find myself annoyed by some but not by others, and it could be over essentially the same topic. Like you wrote (and very well, I might add) it’s all in how we perceive the message being directed at us: empowering or limiting.

Thanks for the tips!

Laurie: Funny how we’re affected by different people over the same thing. I wish I could take credit for writing this post, but it was written by Anne Warfield and, yes, she did write it well! Thanks for coming by, Megan.

By: Stephen - Rat Race Trap

Stephen - Rat Race Trap — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 10:27:47 +0000

Hello, interestingly when I read the first two emails I didn’t see anything wrong with either of them. It’s probably because I’m guilty of too much dictating. Thanks for reminding me about this.

Laurie: I can totally understand dictating – especially around someone who can’t make up her mind! Sometimes, it really does seem easier, but I guess that depends on who you’re asking.