Comments on: Three Steps to Resolve Your Complaints

By: Karl Staib - Work Happy Now

Karl Staib - Work Happy Now — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 03:34:35 +0000

So many times we think of a great solution, but we don’t try to implement it. We can’t be afraid to “do it” because more often than not we will surprise ourselves.

Laurie: True. We’re more capable of more things than we give ourselves credit. Thanks for stopping by, Karl.

By: Positively Present

Positively Present — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 19:02:12 +0000

These are great suggestions. Personally, I hate complaining (even though I definitely do it). It never gets me anywhere and it just makes the situation seem worse. These days, when I catch myself complaining, I really try to think about how I can see the situation in a positive light OR what I can do to make the situation better. Usually, it works!

Laurie: It’s interesting how many possibilities (and opportunities) are “out there” when we stop complaining and start fixing. Thanks for visiting, Dani.

By: Vi | Maximizing Utility

Vi | Maximizing Utility — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 12:31:03 +0000

Sometimes people feel the need to vent or rant, just to get things off their chest. For most everyone in my life, I am apparently the person to go to in order to do just that. On one hand, it’s nice to know that I’m somehow good at this role of listener, ie. person to complain, vent, rant to. On the other hand, it gets tiring.

Laurie: Agreed…on everything you wrote. I often end up being the “rantee” or receiver of the rant too. It’s not so bad if I know that when they vent and get it overwith they feel better. It’s when they go on for months on end (this is usually a work-related rant) that it gets to be tiring. Thanks for visiting and commenting, Vi; I appreciate it.

By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord

Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 11:03:48 +0000

I had a friend who used to call me and complain about stuff over and over again (the same stuff, usually). I reached a point where I’d let her get it out into the open and then I’d say, “So what are you going to do about it?” That became my approach for many years with friends who were chronic complainers. One day, that first friend called me up and said, “You know, when you asked me that question I realized I could actually do something about it, so I did!”

This was a great post — It gets me thinking about what life would be like if no one ever complained!

Laurie: Wow – what a great result to have your friend come back to you and tell you that you empowered her. Just that one simple question moved her from reactive complaining to positive action. Brilliant!